11 things girls should look for in guys
Someone Who Makes You Laugh
Some things in life are not funny. Can he make you at least chuckle when the chips are down?
Someone Who Understands You
You deserve a guy who will laugh at your jokes and “get” you. He might not understand you perfectly on the first date, but if you think you’re funny at all, I hope he gets that and appreciates it about you. Otherwise, you could be Kathy Griffin and you’ll still be laughing alone your whole life. Well, she’s single. But I mean, if Kathy Griffin were — whatever!
Someone Who Will Be There for You
You deserve a guy who will attend your lame “things.” Adult dance recital, Mom’s birthday party? Find the guy who will go to something boring even though he will get nothing out of it — but he’ll go for you
Someone Who Will Do Nothing With You
And I mean nothing. If you’re feeling low-energy, anti-social, or blah, can he sit and do nothing with you or does he always leave you on the couch and go party with the guys? And could you two entertain each other on a deserted island or while stuck in traffic?
Someone Who Cares
You should be with a guy who will give you a thoughtful gift or card. Not every time, obviously, but I would hope this dude would have his moments of showing you he has thought about you.
Someone Who Shares Their Feelings
You deserve someone who tells you he loves you. I do not care about his made-up theory that love is just a social construct or what have you. Hold out for someone who can and will say it. Also, he shouldn’t say it just because you want him to; he should say it because it feels good to say it.
Someone You Can Be Proud Of
Does he have a good head on his shoulders? Does he generally like his job? Is he proud of himself? Let’s hope so, ’cause if you think he’s a lazy idiot, you’ll end up resenting him.
I asked some of my friends what they held out for, and this is what they told me….
Someone You’re Attracted To
He doesn’t have to be Jude Law, but you should be attracted enough so that every time you have an argument, you will be motivated (by your underlying desire for him!) to work it out.
Someone Who Likes to Travel
If you have wanderlust and he never wants to leave his hometown, don’t compromise by staying with him long-term and staying home. It’s fine to be a homebody, but if you’re interested in exploring, find a guy with the travel bug. Otherwise, you’ll look back one day when you’re too old, tired, or broke and you’ll wish you had seen the world.
Someone Open to Kids
If you’re interested in having a family, don’t compromise on whether or not you’ll have kids. If you want them, find a guy who does. Me, I don’t get serious with guys who say “maybe” they want kids. I want someone who feels as sure as I do — and I can’t talk anyone in or out of anything.
Someone Who Sees Your Best Self
Wait for someone who sees you the way you want to be seen. He thinks you’re smart, funny, beautiful and powerful — always. Even on days when you can’t believe any of that about yourself.
Beer Goggles Mystery Solved
Everyone looks better after you’ve tipped back a pint or two, and now we may know why.
It turns out that alcohol dulls our ability to recognize cockeyed, asymmetrical faces, according to researchers who tested the idea on both sober and inebriated college students in England.
“We tend to prefer faces that are symmetrical,” explained Lewis Halsey of Roehampton University in London. That’s well established by previous research, he said.
To find out if alcohol interfered with the ability to distinguish faces where the left and right sides were uneven, he and his colleagues designed an experiment involving images of faces that were tinkered with to make them perfectly symmetrical or subtly asymmetrical. The results of the study were published by Halsey, Joerg Huber, Richard Bufton and A.C. Little in a recent issue of the journal Alcohol.
“Over an evening Joerg, Richard and I went out to the university campus bars with a laptop and asked students to participate,” Halsey said.
This included students taking a quick breathalyzer test to confirm their alcohol consumption. The students were classified as either sober or intoxicated, then examined the images.
Twenty images of a pair of faces — one symmetrical, the other asymmetrical — and then 20 images of a single face were shown, one at a time, to 64 students. Participants were asked to state which face of each of the pairs was most attractive. They also had to determine whether each of the single faces displayed was symmetrical.
The sober students had a greater preference for symmetrical faces than did the intoxicated students. And it turned out that the sober students were better at detecting whether a face was symmetrical.
What’s more, the data suggest that men were less prone to losing their symmetry-detecting ability when intoxicated than women, which was unexpected, Halsey said. The difference probably has something to do with the tendency for men to be more visually oriented and more stimulated by what they see, he said.
“Men tend to ogle more than women do,” Halsey ventured.
The results add a new twist to ongoing research in this area, according to psychologist Benedict Jones of the University of Aberdeen.
“People in the past have compared attractiveness judgments of faces… to show that small amounts of alcohol see subjects give faces higher attractive ratings,” said Jones.
Some researchers have suggested that this might be because people become better at detecting beauty or simply become a bit less picky.
Halsey’s findings come as a surprise, said Jones, because the difference in ability between males and females was not seen in other studies where people looked at symmetry detection.
“Those studies were conducted in the lab though,” said Jones. “It’s possible that these new data show this sex effect because people were tested out in the community, and men and women respond in slightly different ways to that.”
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